Things I Have Been Told Because I Have Curly Hair

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Hi there! Today I would like to share some fun stories, to be more precise: Things I have been told just because I have curly hair. I am sure that right this second you have some things come into your mind that you have been told – please share them with a comment below, I would love to read through them!

Ok, so I chose just a few things that I have heard before and I think they were quite amusing, so there was no harm taken when I was told this. I am sure you can relate to some of them:

  1. Do you curl your hair every day with a curling iron?
  2. I wish I had curly hair – it is so easy to handle: Just get out of the shower, let them air-dry and they will look great!
  3. You are so lucky to have curly hair: Whenever it rains it will just make your curls curlier and they will still look awesome.
  4. When I was a child and still used to brush my curls dry some people have told me that I looked like an angel
  5. When I first started to straighten my hair (after the dry-brushing phase) a fellow student told me: Wow, I didn’t see you among all these other students, I was just looking for your hair and it looks so different (normal!) today
  6. I can’t believe you don’t brush your curls daily, don’t they get really tangled?
  7. How can you not shampoo your curls every time you wash your hair? Doesn’t you hair feel really dirty?
  8. Why is it that you don’t want to go to that hairdresser anymore?
  9. Can I touch your curls?
  10. Since most of the time my answer is no, I hear this one every now and then: I totally don’t get why you don’t like other people touching your hair.

And of course I have also gotten some compliments for my curls, but they wouldn’t be that funny to read. I think that hearing the above was quite amusing, but if you still need to be convinced why it’s great to have curly hair, read my previous post about it!

  • Amy
    January 18, 2016

    Hahaha I got before:
    -‘You look so much better with straight hair!’
    -On a rainy, humid day, I told my straight-haired friend, “My hair is so frizzy today!” and she responded with “Isn’t your hair frizzy EVERY day?” oyyy
    -I’ll be in the middle of saying something and I’ll catch my friend staring at one single curl, which then leads me to ask her ‘You’re not listening, you want to boing my curls, don’t you?’
    -When I was little, a creepy clown at a street fair called me a marshmallow head; took me a long time to recover from that

    • Sandra
      January 20, 2016

      Hi Amy, thanks for your comment! The second thing you’ve mentioned above is quite mean… I’ve definitely also got the impression before that someone just wanted to touch my curls instead of listening to me 🙂

  • Sasha Bertolini
    January 21, 2016

    LOL! Hey! Sandra, omg , I literally read the title and started giggling because I exactly knew what you wrote in the article, so here are my experiences:

    * Do you curl your hair? if so, how?
    * Is that your natural hair?
    * why don’t you just brush your hair? and I am like, yes, why not!
    *that cannot be your natural hair type! impossible!
    *can I touch your hair?

    I also heard people saying:
    * Omg, when I came out of the shower today my hair was curly* and their hair is straight.* like what? !
    They try to PRETEND THEY have curly hair. I would also like to share my bad experiences: One day I asked my class fellow if that straight and quite poofy hair was their natural hair type. I asked because I knew she may have waves so I wanted to advice her on what to do. Another class fellow interrupted me and says yes, she has straight hair, it is better than mine and that right now I was jealous.First of all ladies, I will never be jealous of Poofy hair, secondly I love my curls and third * who the heck are you to tell me off like that?*
    Thank you for the article !!!♥

    • Sandra
      January 22, 2016

      Hi Sasha, I absolutely enjoyed reading your comment! Sounds like we have heard some similar things about our curls.. Keep your head up high and keep on rocking your curls 🙂

  • Sasha Bertolini
    January 22, 2016

    Yes , indeed Sandra! I will keep my head up, and I will be one day proud of my curls, confident of who I am. Thanks!! 😀 I love your curls!

  • Sasha Bertolini
    January 22, 2016

    Sorry to interrupt you again, but as I am going to buy a new conditioner, I wanted some advice. I decided to buy the organix conditioners, but there are soo many! which one do you think is the best and more moisturising?
    Organix Argan Oil Conditioner
    Organix Coconut Milk

    Is there any other conditioner in line you would like to tell me of?

    Thank you very much Sandra for all your help!

    • Sandra
      January 24, 2016

      Unfortunately I’m not able to help you, as I’ve never tried any products by Organix. Let me know which one’s you liked, so I know if I should also give them a try!

      • Sasha Bertolini
        January 25, 2016

        Hi Sandra. I changed my mind and I bought the Uberto Giannini Curl Friendly intensive conditioner. I was shocked when I came to know that the organix products contained silicones. I think they changed their formula.. 🙁 if only all products didn’t contain any silicones or sulphates our life would be a lot easier! Though I was disappointed , I bought the Umberto Giannini one because I came to know that it did not contain silicones. I just learnt how to read and spot them!
        Thanks for the reply!

  • Noreen
    February 1, 2016

    My favorite is when you have your hair straightened and get the “oh! i love your hair like that” comment. Um. I normally wear my hair curly. The “like that” at the end is such a thorn in my side. I know they mean well but like -__-

    • Sandra
      February 1, 2016

      Hi Noreen, yes – I’ve also heard that before and altough it’s meant as a compliment it doesn’t feel like one…

  • Maria
    February 5, 2016

    Hi Sandra,

    I found your blog through

    I love your articles. They are so helpful and informative. Your most recent titled “HOW TO SLEEP & REFRESH 2ND DAY CURLY HAIR” was especially useful to me.

    I have been doing something similar (all the steps apart from the pinning up; instead just coiling around my finger for a few seconds), but would love to try the your method.

    Your hair looks like mine except my waves begin lower (just above brows) than yours, and are more loose; but throughout the hair I have some full curls and corkicelli. And towards the ends they form full curls.

    I really have no idea what my hairtype is! Sometimes I think 2b, other times 3a/b.

    Oh well, maybe I will never know 😀

    On the topic of this blog post… I have also got some “interesting” comments since I stopped straightening. The most annoying is people simply thinking I haven’t brushed my hair that day. My uncle gave me a compliment the other day, but it was a little bit insulting as well: “…I like your hair better all wild like this rather than straight.” But I decided to ignore his choice of adjectives and focus on his lovely and kind compliment 🙂

    I would like to mention that when my hair is left to its natural state, I am generally more happy and carefree in my life. I have noticed that people who have always tried to bring me down or hold me back throughout my whole life tend to be the ones who criticize my hair when it’s not straight. So there is definitely a link there!

    • Sandra
      February 28, 2016

      I’m happy to hear you like your curls and that you’re embracing them. Don’t let a silly comment frustrate you!

  • Alexis
    February 14, 2016

    I was still a student and one summer I received a very stupid and perhaps even hurtful comment about my curly hair. One flatmate (let’s call her S) offered to cut the hair of some flatmates. In the living room, S was cutting a flat mate’s hair (let’s call this flatmate SL).
    Anyway, S did not cut SL’s hair to SL’s satisfaction and SL chided S. Then SL pointed to me and said “It doesn’t matter what you do with her hair because it’s curly” I was dumbfounded and speechless. I did try to stick up for myself but I was so taken aback at that ignorant and insensitive comment. Then S said something to me like “yes, it doesn’t matter because your hair will just spring up and nobody will notice” Again, I was dumbfounded and speechless. Whilst I have managed to disguise bad haircuts with my curls – to a certain extent, it DOES matter how my hair is cut. Even if others do not notice a bad cut – I NOTICE it, I have to live with it.
    Now I wish I had said to these two ladies “Well, you both have very small breasts, so if either of you were to get breast cancer and had to have a mastectomy, it wouldn’t matter because you have nothing much to show now”
    Now, admittedly have a mastectomy is FAR WORSE than a bad haircut. My curly hair will grow back after a bad haircut but a surgically removed breast won’t grow back. However, it DOES matter how my hair is cut. When I pay out my hard earned cash, it’s not too much to ask for a good cut.
    SL left the flat soon after that exchange. A few weeks later I was moving out of that flat and on the day of my move S came to me at the breakfast table and asked me in an ordering way to go buy some bin bags. I looked at her and said “No, get them yourself!” I don’t know if that was exactly getting my own back, but still it felt good to say no and make her life inconvenient.

    • Sandra
      February 28, 2016

      Hi Alexis, I’m sorry you had to hear these comments! Don’t let this affect embracing your natural hair!

  • Maryanne
    February 24, 2016

    Hi, Sandra! All curly girls can relate to this post!

    Recently, I had my hair straight for a couple of weeks. It seemed EVERYONE was running up to me to tell me, “I LOVE your hair like this!” (Like it was so bad before?) I even got the same comment from the same person on two occasions. (Even if I was collecting votes on my new ‘do, you can only vote ONCE!). The same person told me, “I mean, it was good before, but this is BETTER.” And, another woman told me, “I LOVE your hair! PLEASE don’t change it back.” Really? That one was hard to swallow.

    Thankfully, I know everyone means well. We live in a straight-haired world where curly hair is still seen as unkempt, messy, juvenile, or just too busy. Most people don’t realize they’ve been so affected by the straight-hair-propaganda. So, I just say, “thanks” and laugh it off.

    BTW…I have since “changed it back”. No one has commented on my curly hair. I guess they hate it. Or, maybe they’re embarrassed by their comments. Sigh.

    But, seriously?!

    • Sandra
      February 28, 2016

      I’m sorry you had to hear these comments! I’m sure people oftentimes actually mean well by complementing on staightened hair (because they know it took some time to do it). Keep on rocking your curls!

      • Chris Carter
        May 10, 2016

        Hi Sandra!
        After 57 short years, I’m finally learning to embrace my curls and all the comments that go with it. I think Maryanne really struck a point that I can relate to…all my life I’ve been trying to straighten my hair with blow dryers, irons, etc…to make it lay down and look “normal”.
        I’m so glad I found your blog and other curlies that love our curls. I’ve stumbled on a few things on my own….like giving up the brush and the importance of good products.
        Just wanted to thank you for your tips and a place where we can all share good ideas.
        Chris C

  • Deb-bee
    March 9, 2016

    Hi Sandra!

    I’ve also been told I should do my hair straight more often. It feels like they’re saying “it would look sooo much better”… Whatever, they’re wild as me, they represent me, I don’t care what people say. Even though I like them straight myself every now and then (but mainly to feel their real length at the very bottom of my back!).

    When I was much younger, kids in school used to tell me I looked like a sheep, but not in a nice way. More recently, a friend of mine told her 4 year old daughter that I had hair as soft as a sheep, in a really lovely way! <3

    Strangely enough, nobody ever asks me to touch it. But I get often asked about knots and time required for washing and detangling. Which is in fact quite a lot.

    Funny situation: once I was eating a sandwich with my man outside a supermarket in the street and the random old lady passing by started saying out quite loudly that I have such beautiful hair and that I should never cut my hair, not listen to other women who'll tell me to do so, and again how beautiful my hair is and she went on as she passed by and went on her way… 😀 Almost same thing happened in a clothing shop… Random woman with really loud voice 😀

    Last but not least, some people asked me if all that hair is really all mine 😀 like, what?!? 😀

    • Sandra
      March 10, 2016

      Thank you so much for your comment – I loved reading through it, especially the positive reactions you’ve gotten for your curly hair!

  • Christine
    March 27, 2016

    My friends often tell me they just look for my curly hair when I’m meeting them in a crowd – I’m cool with that lol. Someone else who I’d only just met once said to me – I bet you hate your curls , I hate mine so I straighten them. I wasn’t cool with that.

  • Nina
    April 10, 2016

    Hi all, I mostly get the opposite: friends and acquaintances keep telling me how nice my hair looks curly. Except for my family, strange enough: my dad asked if I got a perm, and my mom could have not looked more shocked if I had shaved my head and carried a tarantula around on it. Ah, well, at 39 my parents are not the most important opinions in my world anymore. But since my parents didn’t know I had curly hair, I guess I don’t have to feel bad that I didn’t discover this until a year ago!

    • Sandra
      April 11, 2016

      Hi Nina, that’s great to hear! 🙂

  • Random Passerby
    April 26, 2016

    At my age, I have heard it all. “Your hair looks like pubic hair” is probably my favorite. Once at a party a woman I didn’t even know said to me, “You should straighten your hair,” and I said, “You should shave your head. I think that’d be a good look for you.”

  • Penny @Living Gorgeous
    May 6, 2018

    I mostly get “I wish I had curly hair” and sometimes Do you curl your hair every day
    Well, it’s all about the way you look at it. I personally think having curly hair is great and I love my curl!

  • Brenda
    January 26, 2019

    I was once told that I don’t have natural curly hair because white girl’s can’t have natural curly hair! I said I am white and my hair is “naturally” curly. Then was told I don’t know what natural curly hair is. Only black people know what it’s like to have natural curly hair. What the what!
    How come you don’t fix your hair anymore?
    You looked better without a perm. Don’t do that anymore it’s really bad for your hair.

    Wonder why your hair got curly when it turned gray?

    You are so lucky you have curl’s just wash your hair shake it and go.

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